Have I Create Monsters?

We've all done it. We've been somewhere and rewarded our children with a tasty treat. There could be only two reasons why you would throw all nutritional wisdom aside and allow your children to consume what could only be described as a ridiculous amount of fat and sugar. Those reasons being, 1 - you felt like it, and/or 2 - you just wanted to shut them up. In the moment the price of peace far outweighs any consequence that may result.

I have done this for both reasons on WAY more than a few occasions, and now that my children are older and much more advanced in their pestering skills, I fear I have created sugar monsters. I think I may finally be getting through to them with my constant babbling about the fact that everything they want costs money, and I don't have money for everything. I am also currently adhering to a no exercise, no treat policy. We have had lengthy discussion about healthy BMI. My twins may not grasp the concept entirely, but they know that poor food choices leads to a poor BMI.

So, am I a bad mom for letting something like this slide for so long before lassoing them back in, or am I a bad mom for allowing it to happen in the first place? Either way I feel like I let my kids down in the healthy choices department. I don't know how to process this. Today, I wonder if my kids will ever outgrow the 'Can I? Can I? Can I?' stage.

Considering the genetic propensity toward the more rotund frame on both mine and my husbands side, I fear that my children are going to get the worst of both worlds when it comes to handling weight and body image. Since losing my weight over the last 7 years, I do not discuss weight in terms of 'fat' or 'skinny'. Those are such negative and awful terms! Our house uses 'healthy' and 'unhealthy'. I don't really take issue with my kids' body proportions right now. They're still growing. But, I must be diligent in my positive reinforcement when it comes to food and activity choices. (It's a good thing they're in bed right now whilst I tap away on this laptop with my bum planted firmly yet comfortably in bed!)

What are your thoughts on this? I would love to hear ideas, or suggestions on what you do in your family to promote healthy living.